Dating an egotistical person
We know that saying it, to some extent, is a demonstration of our commitment to her and that we’re not going anywhere. If you say it first, then it’s like you’re forcing that implied commitment, in a way.
And even if a guy does love you, he will feel to an extent that he’s being pressured.
They’d have the same objections I did: a little too old, not a Harvard grad, blahblahblah. If you’re single, and never find anybody “good enough,” chances are that you do the exact same thing. Because if you’ve been dating this way for 5, 10 or 20 years, there’s something that you’re not seeing.
The reason I’m bringing this up is that I made a CHOICE to find an amazing partner and create an amazing life – and all I had to do was give up that IMAGE that I’d had of dating a woman who was Just. And that something is this: If a 42-year-old man says that he’s ONLY attracted to 9’s and 10’s who are in their late 20’s, that’s fabulous.
If the woman makes this “big move” first, does it make a guy squirm…or run?
When you say it to him, it will most likely come across as you forcing it on him.
Now, I don’t know you, I don’t know him and everyone is different.
I can say from personal experience that there have been times it’s happened to me and I really did love the girl, but my life was a mess in other ways and wasn’t in the shape it needed to be in for an I-love-you type of relationship.
I don’t feel good saying it, but I handled it less than gracefully – I have no idea how exactly me not saying it back was interpreted by the woman, but of course it wasn’t good.